How Coaching Helps
Some conflicts are just too difficult to resolve on our own. Even experienced conflict resolution professionals benefit from working through challenging situations with trusted mentors and colleagues. Some conflicts are vey complex, with a lot of “moving parts.” Some bring up painful or uncomfortable emotions that we would rather avoid. And sometimes, we have conflicts that involve people or situations that we have come to believe are simply “impossible” to deal with.
No matter the reason, we all experience being “stuck” in conflict sometimes and we have all experienced the misery that comes with it.
When we are struck in conflict, our lives will be more anxious, distracted, exhausted and impatient. The chronic stress can interfere with our sleep, our eating, our relationships with others and our overall feeling of well-being. Few things can improve the quality of our lives faster and more dramatically than finding closure on a major conflict.
Chronic or unresolved conflicts are distracting and time-consuming and can destroy productivity. Some even lead to litigation, which can generate legal fees that quickly exceed the cost of the underlying dispute. When it comes to your “bottom line,” it is hard to beat the return on investment that you can get from resolving a serious conflict.
Often get worse
Conflicts that we struggle to resolve tend to be ones that get worse. Indeed, what often makes a conflict difficult is that it gets worse while we are trying to resolve it. Unfortunately, the worse it gets, the harder it becomes to resolve, and we can soon find ourselves stuck in a vicious, accelerating spiral.
Can breed new conflicts
When we allow a conflict to simmer or deteriorate, it puts a strain not only on ourselves, but also on the other people in our lives who need our attention, patience, and energy. When we are tired, stressed, depleted and distracted we tend to be less tolerant, more vulnerable, more defensive, less patient, less reasonable and – as a result – far more likely to fall into conflicts with others. When you invest in resolving one serious conflict, you avoid countless others for free.
You are not stuck. You are not alone.
Your Conflict Coach can help you:
Understand your interests
Generate options and alternatives
Organize your thoughts
Reframe your perspective
Find and practice your voice
Channel your emotions
Find courage and confidence